An interesting paradox...
Saturday, 4 October 2008
Karen here, I'd just like to share with you the paradox of the things you enjoy but wish you didn't.
Sometimes feeling bad is a good place to be in. Having a problem with a particular issue, will often force you into finding a solution. When I began to learn to meditate over 10 years ago, I found I had a lot of resistance to making changes to circumstances in my life that made me unhappy. The pain that came with this realisation forced me to begin to look at who I really was and what I needed to do in order to live a more authentic life with fun, adventure and energy. I had to begin to eliminate those things that didn't work for me anymore, such as bad habits.
Activities such as dieting, eating too much, eating too little, smoking, drinking too much alcohol can border on obsessive for some of us.
Any time we compulsively indulge in any of these behaviours we often feel bad. Whether it is guilt and shame, an inability to gain control of the habit or even feeling physical pain. Yet why is it that when all we want to do is feel good we continue to indulge in these habits that actually make us feel bad? Strange paradox! There are so many other options and yet some people choose to bang their heads against a brick wall over and over again by doing the same old thing. If you are reading this I guess you understand that the power to change lies in you and nothing or no one else.
One way to begin to initiate change is to draw up a table. Write a list of all the things in your life you don't want. Not just habits, but also situations such as being in the wrong job, wrong relationship or simply being out of touch with who you really are. Then in the next column, begin to think about what you would really like instead. Make it the ultimate opposite of what you wrote in column 1.
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Knowing what you want may not come instantly as you may not really have considered what it is you really do want. You may find yourself re-writing this part. Be as clear and specific as possible. Re-write it as many times as you need. Many of us focus on the problem and give very little attention to a solution.
If you are not used to listening to your unconscious then you may need to put aside time to do this. Your unconscious mind is your best friend if you like. Very often it communicates with you via feelings. When you feel bad, it's telling you that you are engaging with someone or something that is not right for the real you. And the opposite is true when you feel good. This part of you holds many secrets that can be revealed to make you feel more yourself in every way. This part of you can also reveal to you the unique gifts that you have inside of you that you may not be making use of. Making friends with your subconscious is like making friends with any other person, sometimes it can take time to build the relationship.
If you would like to find out more about feeling more in control of your life, or if you would like to gain a better understanding of how you really can change your life by changing your mind then please feel free to email me with any questions at karen@korkoi.com. Or call +44 (0) 777 047 5794.
I am committed to helping you reveal your own greatness by helping you find the wisdom that is already inside of you. When you are living your life with such inspired energy, life is truly more fun and fulfilling.
Karen Laryea
PS. If you have a question about health, happiness or mindset changes. Feel free to ask and you might be the lucky one to be answered in the next newsletter.
Sometimes feeling bad is a good place to be in. Having a problem with a particular issue, will often force you into finding a solution. When I began to learn to meditate over 10 years ago, I found I had a lot of resistance to making changes to circumstances in my life that made me unhappy. The pain that came with this realisation forced me to begin to look at who I really was and what I needed to do in order to live a more authentic life with fun, adventure and energy. I had to begin to eliminate those things that didn't work for me anymore, such as bad habits.
Activities such as dieting, eating too much, eating too little, smoking, drinking too much alcohol can border on obsessive for some of us.
Any time we compulsively indulge in any of these behaviours we often feel bad. Whether it is guilt and shame, an inability to gain control of the habit or even feeling physical pain. Yet why is it that when all we want to do is feel good we continue to indulge in these habits that actually make us feel bad? Strange paradox! There are so many other options and yet some people choose to bang their heads against a brick wall over and over again by doing the same old thing. If you are reading this I guess you understand that the power to change lies in you and nothing or no one else.
One way to begin to initiate change is to draw up a table. Write a list of all the things in your life you don't want. Not just habits, but also situations such as being in the wrong job, wrong relationship or simply being out of touch with who you really are. Then in the next column, begin to think about what you would really like instead. Make it the ultimate opposite of what you wrote in column 1.
***
Knowing what you want may not come instantly as you may not really have considered what it is you really do want. You may find yourself re-writing this part. Be as clear and specific as possible. Re-write it as many times as you need. Many of us focus on the problem and give very little attention to a solution.
If you are not used to listening to your unconscious then you may need to put aside time to do this. Your unconscious mind is your best friend if you like. Very often it communicates with you via feelings. When you feel bad, it's telling you that you are engaging with someone or something that is not right for the real you. And the opposite is true when you feel good. This part of you holds many secrets that can be revealed to make you feel more yourself in every way. This part of you can also reveal to you the unique gifts that you have inside of you that you may not be making use of. Making friends with your subconscious is like making friends with any other person, sometimes it can take time to build the relationship.
If you would like to find out more about feeling more in control of your life, or if you would like to gain a better understanding of how you really can change your life by changing your mind then please feel free to email me with any questions at karen@korkoi.com. Or call +44 (0) 777 047 5794.
I am committed to helping you reveal your own greatness by helping you find the wisdom that is already inside of you. When you are living your life with such inspired energy, life is truly more fun and fulfilling.
Karen Laryea
PS. If you have a question about health, happiness or mindset changes. Feel free to ask and you might be the lucky one to be answered in the next newsletter.
posted by Karen Laryea at 15:19
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